Turn your vision inwards is something I often include in my guided visualizations. The idea behind this statement is to let go of what others think or what other desire or demand from you and find what it is that you desire.
When you think of your own sexuality and the way you express yourself as a sexual being…I don’t mean just a fleeting thought…I mean really contemplate it…what do you know about yourself. What do you know about your sexuality? Do you give yourself permission to express yourself in a way that ignites your passion?
Case Study: A lovely young couple I worked with had some fairly serious issues. If you saw this beautiful couple walking down the street, you’d likely assume they had a fantastic sex life. However, the reality was very different.
You see, the woman, who was in her twenties…did not like sex. Period. It just was not something she had an interest in. So, this particular couple had sex once or twice a year.
Their issue–the young man she was dating loved her deeply, but he was a highly sexual person–this arrangement was not working for him. Even though his sexual needs were seriously neglected, he was a loyal guy and did not look elsewhere.
Over time, after several sessions with the young woman independently and then with the couple together…I was able to discover something even this woman did not know about herself. She loved sex, but felt shame around her sexuality because of her up-bringing.
Her parents were fairly conservative and somewhere inside her mind…she had the belief that sex is a sin…especially when you are having sex outside of marriage.
The interesting thing was that logically, she did not agree with the belief that was locked in her subconscious mind. So, with her permission and her eager participation…together, we worked through her blocks.
Over time, her and her lover incorporated massage and yoni honouring sessions into their love-making. For her, this helped her to feel more open and aroused so that she could step out of her mind and give herself over to the process.
Question: What, if any, limiting beliefs or blocks do you have around your sexuality or your sexual expression?
- The Trance Dance of Sex and Sacred Rituals (tantrachick.wordpress.com)
- Is There Sex After 60? (williamflew.wordpress.com)